Make Your Child Genius

It is common for parents to compare their children’s abilities with each other and with other families’ children. We do this for reassurance that our children are learning similarly to other children their age. It is also human to think and hope that our own children are advanced for their age. Here are some quick tips to help you get out of that possible developing bad habit, whether internally in your mind or externally with what you say to your child.

Tip One
Value your child for whom he is. Recognize his strengths and weaknesses, special abilities and interests, and be realistic about your expectations for your child.

Tip Two
Avoid comparing your children with each other. For example, don’t say, “Why can’t you clean up your room like your sister keeps hers?” Or, “You need to listen better to your teacher just like your brother does.” Instead, focus on each child’s uniqueness and strengths and value as a member of the family.

Tip Three
When in social situations with other families or grandparents and extended family, and comparison talk begins, avoid the temptation to become involved in these discussions. Find positive things to say about all the children rather than comparing. Comparing abilities leads to feelings of inadequacy.

Don’t Feel Alone
We all have eyes to see the other kids at the park. Comparison is natural. Just don’t make it a habit. There is something to be proud about in every child.

Quote
“No matter how calmly you try to referee, parenting will eventually produce bizarre, and I’m not talking about the kids. Their behavior is always normal.” (Bill Cosby, found online)